I remember my daughter playing the computer game, "Barbie as Princess Bride" when she was very little. Not to be confused with the movie "The Princess Bride," this is a game for little girls to practice sorting and following directions and matching, and playing dress up, while pretending to get Barbie ready for her wedding. Unfortunately, one line that Barbie says - which I taught my little girls was so silly - was her reply to the Prince's question: "Will you marry me?"
|screen shot from Barbie as Princess Bride, from Moby Games|
She gushes, "Oh, yes! This is going to be the best wedding ever!"
The best wedding . . . er, he asked you to marry him, not to throw him a party that he probably doesn't even want to attend. And thus, the must-have formal party pressure continues.
And, yes, even though my daughters today are not dressing like Barbies, they do enjoy designing dresses and outfits when they doodle. Maybe that's a good thing, since it's difficult to find a ready-made design for a dress that's modest in both ways at the same time.
So, before you plan the "best wedding ever" . . .
Please read the following articles. Marriage is so much more than the formal dinner party that so often comes with it, no matter how stressful a wedding can be. Marriage is a major decision because it will change your life. Even for those who intend to "bail" if it doesn't work, marriage will change your life. If you intend not to give up and have made the decision to marry for life, please consider the words of the following two articles.
There are two parts: one for women and one for men. If you are a young person, please read these and carefully consider printing your article out and hanging it your bedroom wall. Read both of them, and determine that you will be the one that "the good one" wants to marry as well.