Old Fashioned Names

When you were born, we named you Heather. Your father thought it was a beautiful name. It was the name of the prettiest girl in his high school. I sometimes told others that last fact with a chuckle.  Not to belittle the name. It was just a cute story. I named you Elizabeth to, because that name was also beautiful to me. You have a beautiful name, which we chose with love. You were a beautiful baby, and a lovely child. Your smile glowed and you were always cute. Sweet. Pretty. And you grew to be beautiful.

Of course, all those adjectives and the names themselves are now... old fashioned?  They are attributed to ladies, young and old. Not usually masculine in any sense. These days, though, feminine and masculine names and descriptors are out of date. We, in the modern West, are not to be male or female, masculine or feminine, boy or girl. Genderless and grey. Romantic and/or sexual with anyone who is human. Fluid. Colour and origin can't be changed, so everyone must be accepted as human, and allowed and expected to be proud of who they are.

But these days, gender, which also can't be changed, and should also have been respected ... can be medically, chemically, psychologically changed, misinterpreted, flipped back and forth from day to day, from minute to minute.

Names and adjectives which describe "red and yellow, black and white" have become terms of derision, used within one group to build up one another and not allowed to be used by "the others" - those who are not "our people".  Regardless of the fact that we are one people. One blood. We are not to differentiate between shades of skin colour when it comes to work, religion, marriage and family, education, all while remembering that some social classes may have years and years of baggage pulling them down because people in the past didn't regard all shades of brown as equal people, notwithstanding words in some nation's credo.

Religious people are told to co-exist. And they do. Look at the rise of cross cultural weddings, neighborhoods, schools. If something happens to separate those of different ideologies, many people are quick to jump in and point out that it's wrong to put down or elevate one human above another because of a name or title that may be religious, cultural or political.

Sometimes old fashioned words divide and belittle humans. Prejudice and fear. Ignorance. Modernity and education seek to correct the old ways that hurt other humans and put walls between people. So new words are taken up and promoted: Indigenous. Autistic. Differently abled.

But men and women? Instead of modernity and education promoting the equal treatment of men and women, modernity has decided to eliminate male and female. To say that one is "pan-" or "fluid" is to say that gender is a societal construct, putting biological and chemical differences which can be scientifically described away. Leaving behind the idea that you can be romantically or